Man who found Stephen Gately's body was in bed with his husband

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Stephen Gately and his husband Andrew Cowles

Grim

Tue, 13/10/2009 - 09:48 by Mr. HM

The 'third man' in the house at the time of Stephen Gately's death on Saturday has spoken about the day, revealing it was him who found the body after spending the night in bed with Stephen's husband.

Georgi Dochev says he and Stephen's husband Andy went in to the bedroom leaving Stephen alone on the sofa wearing pyjamas and emerged later on to find his "pale and cold body crouched in a mysterious prayer position". They had spent the evening drinking in the Majorcan gay club The Black Cat before heading back to the flat in Port Andratx.

Can this story get any grimmer? Not only does it seem likely that Stephen's death was an accident, not the usual "coke hell" stories we are used to, but the poor bloke died in the knowledge that his husband was in bed with some Bulgarian dude.

And a note to the tabloid papers - an 8hr drinking session is NOT worthy of a shocking headline. 7pm-3am drinking? That is a normal weekend for most people, and if you're honest, a normal afternoon for a lot of people working in newspapers. You've all done it, slipped out for lunch at 1pm and carried on till closing time - stop sensationalizing it for fucks sake.

Also - enough of putting husband or partner in inverted commas - you did it with Matt Lucas' ex-husband last week and yesterday with Stephen Gately. It's nothing more than thinly veiled homophobia - an accusation that even though they are married in the eyes of the law it is somehow not "proper". Very poor show.

R.I.P., Stephen Gately

Comments

Please help me!!! Am i missing something? Please! Like I am a gay guy but statments like this:

"Also - enough of putting husband or partner in inverted commas - you did it with Matt Lucas' ex-husband last week and yesterday with Stephen Gately. It's nothing more than thinly veiled homophobia - an accusation that even though they are married in the eyes of the law it is somehow not "proper". Very poor show."

Am i missing something??? I loved Stephen Gately and for what he did for gay men, paving the way but; surely the comment of "husband" was just empahsing that the guy was married and NOT a homophobic attack. If i married a guy, then its for real and its for life! People seem to gloss over this as if gay guys cannot be faithful; so makes me sad. Surely I am not the only gay to think like this? Am I? If so, I don't wanna be gay!!
spreadthelove Sun, 18/10/2009 - 01:16
His 'Husband' was in bed 'Shagging' a 'Bulgarian' that they had met at a 'Gay Disco' earlier that evening. Gately was found in a 'Praying Position' on the couch in his 'Jim Jams' Natural Causes!.............MY ARSE!
britt.read Thu, 15/10/2009 - 14:07
......not at my sons school swimming gala...
thingymabob Tue, 13/10/2009 - 23:29
Nothing really to report here - much ado about nothing. Bloke dies after a mega piss-up. Sad but not exactly Watergate.

Now.... where was Barrymore this weekend???
Blartmonster Tue, 13/10/2009 - 19:21
What's wrong with 'husband and husband'? Nothing except it sounds a bit naff. Liberate yourself, granddad (grandma).
cosmotopper Tue, 13/10/2009 - 18:07
Coincidentally, the word "bugger" is a corruption of "Bulgarian". Something to do with the Catholics thinking they were all benders. Therefore ermmmm. . . . nothing really. *goes back to sleep*
BigPhil Tue, 13/10/2009 - 16:38
choking on a big bender?
ta-dah
JOHNRBUK Tue, 13/10/2009 - 16:14
"...the poor bloke died in the knowledge that his husband was in bed with some Bulgarian dude..."
Come one, HM! Twenty-first century still not caught up with you? People have open relationships these days. That thought might have been quite a turn-on for him.
babydinosaur Tue, 13/10/2009 - 15:31
Well done Mr HM and as you are seemingly on an anti-homophobic-tabloid tack, and rightfully so, can I suggest that next time you go for the 'Majorcan Club The Black Cat', rather than using the word gay in the clubs description.

Thanks.
HeyYou Tue, 13/10/2009 - 14:57
It's all a bit icky. I didn't even know who this dead queen was until the day before yesterday.
BustySinclair Tue, 13/10/2009 - 14:20
What's wrong with husband and husband out of interest?
Mr. HM Tue, 13/10/2009 - 13:55
Or alternatively, just ignore it and leave the public to see it for what it is?
Mr. HM Tue, 13/10/2009 - 13:55
Corrected - thanks. Nothing thinly veiled about it though.
Mr. HM Tue, 13/10/2009 - 13:54
(; tun gib a no deggag
thingymabob Tue, 13/10/2009 - 13:36
A Muslim woman in burqa made out of gossamer is a thinly-veiled something or other.

Does that help?
jiggerycock Tue, 13/10/2009 - 13:30
Partner, no quotation marks, fine. But are we obliged to talk about 'husband and husband' or is one to be identified as 'wife'? We'd surely be better off dropping the terms.
cosmotopper Tue, 13/10/2009 - 13:23
However, the fact remains that if the "husband in bed with Bulgarian" story is true, there will be plenty of "That's how these gays live their lives" type stories flying about very shortly, and Gately's family will need some serious PR work to try and remove the sordidness from what's allegedly happened.

A job for Max, no doubt . . . .
Stramash Tue, 13/10/2009 - 12:25
And a note to HM writers - the bloke who found him was not some 'Spanish dude', he was by all acounts Bulgarian. I feel sure this represents your 'thinly veiled' something or other but I'm not quite sure what...
HeyYou Tue, 13/10/2009 - 11:53
I pointed out the "husband" thing on the Matt Lucas story last week. Do I get a prize?
Stramash Tue, 13/10/2009 - 11:33
Tabloids are fucking slimy, hateful cunts. Everyone who works for one should be fucking murdered.
aaaargh Tue, 13/10/2009 - 10:18
Tabloids in bullshit shocker!. Why let the facts get in the way of a good story! Or the lack of one in the first place.
yogithebear Tue, 13/10/2009 - 10:15
Well twat on a brick!

A statement and sentiments I hope even the most jaundiced Moler can totally support!
jiggerycock Tue, 13/10/2009 - 10:00

Well twat on a brick!

A statement and sentiments I hope even the most jaundiced Moler can totally support!
jiggerycock Tue, 13/10/2009 - 10:00
Tabloids in bullshit shocker!. Why let the facts get in the way of a good story! Or the lack of one in the first place.
yogithebear Tue, 13/10/2009 - 10:15
Tabloids are fucking slimy, hateful cunts. Everyone who works for one should be fucking murdered.
aaaargh Tue, 13/10/2009 - 10:18
I pointed out the "husband" thing on the Matt Lucas story last week. Do I get a prize?
Stramash Tue, 13/10/2009 - 11:33
And a note to HM writers - the bloke who found him was not some 'Spanish dude', he was by all acounts Bulgarian. I feel sure this represents your 'thinly veiled' something or other but I'm not quite sure what...
HeyYou Tue, 13/10/2009 - 11:53
However, the fact remains that if the "husband in bed with Bulgarian" story is true, there will be plenty of "That's how these gays live their lives" type stories flying about very shortly, and Gately's family will need some serious PR work to try and remove the sordidness from what's allegedly happened.

A job for Max, no doubt . . . .
Stramash Tue, 13/10/2009 - 12:25
Partner, no quotation marks, fine. But are we obliged to talk about 'husband and husband' or is one to be identified as 'wife'? We'd surely be better off dropping the terms.
cosmotopper Tue, 13/10/2009 - 13:23
A Muslim woman in burqa made out of gossamer is a thinly-veiled something or other.

Does that help?
jiggerycock Tue, 13/10/2009 - 13:30
(; tun gib a no deggag
thingymabob Tue, 13/10/2009 - 13:36
Corrected - thanks. Nothing thinly veiled about it though.
Mr. HM Tue, 13/10/2009 - 13:54
Or alternatively, just ignore it and leave the public to see it for what it is?
Mr. HM Tue, 13/10/2009 - 13:55
What's wrong with husband and husband out of interest?
Mr. HM Tue, 13/10/2009 - 13:55
It's all a bit icky. I didn't even know who this dead queen was until the day before yesterday.
BustySinclair Tue, 13/10/2009 - 14:20
Well done Mr HM and as you are seemingly on an anti-homophobic-tabloid tack, and rightfully so, can I suggest that next time you go for the 'Majorcan Club The Black Cat', rather than using the word gay in the clubs description.

Thanks.
HeyYou Tue, 13/10/2009 - 14:57
"...the poor bloke died in the knowledge that his husband was in bed with some Bulgarian dude..."
Come one, HM! Twenty-first century still not caught up with you? People have open relationships these days. That thought might have been quite a turn-on for him.
babydinosaur Tue, 13/10/2009 - 15:31
choking on a big bender?
ta-dah
JOHNRBUK Tue, 13/10/2009 - 16:14
Coincidentally, the word "bugger" is a corruption of "Bulgarian". Something to do with the Catholics thinking they were all benders. Therefore ermmmm. . . . nothing really. *goes back to sleep*
BigPhil Tue, 13/10/2009 - 16:38
What's wrong with 'husband and husband'? Nothing except it sounds a bit naff. Liberate yourself, granddad (grandma).
cosmotopper Tue, 13/10/2009 - 18:07
Nothing really to report here - much ado about nothing. Bloke dies after a mega piss-up. Sad but not exactly Watergate.

Now.... where was Barrymore this weekend???
Blartmonster Tue, 13/10/2009 - 19:21
......not at my sons school swimming gala...
thingymabob Tue, 13/10/2009 - 23:29
His 'Husband' was in bed 'Shagging' a 'Bulgarian' that they had met at a 'Gay Disco' earlier that evening. Gately was found in a 'Praying Position' on the couch in his 'Jim Jams' Natural Causes!.............MY ARSE!
britt.read Thu, 15/10/2009 - 14:07
Please help me!!! Am i missing something? Please! Like I am a gay guy but statments like this:

"Also - enough of putting husband or partner in inverted commas - you did it with Matt Lucas' ex-husband last week and yesterday with Stephen Gately. It's nothing more than thinly veiled homophobia - an accusation that even though they are married in the eyes of the law it is somehow not "proper". Very poor show."

Am i missing something??? I loved Stephen Gately and for what he did for gay men, paving the way but; surely the comment of "husband" was just empahsing that the guy was married and NOT a homophobic attack. If i married a guy, then its for real and its for life! People seem to gloss over this as if gay guys cannot be faithful; so makes me sad. Surely I am not the only gay to think like this? Am I? If so, I don't wanna be gay!!
spreadthelove Sun, 18/10/2009 - 01:16